Failure...

The sphere of life is distended with lots of things. There are countless number of new entities that continuously add to our ever growing experience. New ideas tend to take birth in every mind, and over the course of time the urge to do something new always arises. And this is where the real test begins: “should I go for it or should I stop?”, “what if I failed?”, “what would others think if it didn’t work?”, “should I speak about this thing to somebody first?” etc. etc. The beginning itself of this new thing becomes shaky and this leads usually to failures.

It is observed that while our reactions to success are immediately positive, we sometimes have to cope with our failures before we can process them and move on. Coping with failure has sometimes been compared to coping with death, which means people sometimes seem to lose everything just because of this tiny hurdle thing to success called… “Failure”

Despite the fact that success and failure are antonyms, failure in every circumstance is not an antonym to success at all. Good books describe the opposite to success as “giving up”. In the normal perspective of an internet freak, being unsuccessful might mean if he does not get what he was trying to look for. But here I believe that “internet is a sea of resources, one only needs to bang the keyboard and fish out what is desired”. So being unsuccessful would mean giving up and not trying any further. This isn’t failure, is it?

When a baby begins learning how to walk, it doesn’t get it right on the very first instance. It is a gradual process. But it doesn’t give up having failed once, twice, thrice and so on… there actually is no track of how many attempts a baby requires when ot fully takes its first correct step. It is but natural to fall before a rise.

Learning is a gradually process and it takes time even for a genius to grasp everything. Being social people, accepting the fact that we have not been successful in something makes us feel embarrassed and this leads to aggravation. And this is not good for anyone. A setback if taken to heart produces cascading effects, which leads to believing in a very wrong conclusion that we are not fit to do the specified thing. And this conclusion usually arrives when it’s just a matter of time that a little more effort in the right direction might be it and success would arrive knocking at the door.

 Not all re-attempts are fruitful. Yet, the belief that they will can do wonders. A failed attempt is not to be looked upon as the last resort, but timely gearing up and a perfect frame of mind can prove productive. Once we have experienced the pain and disappointment that goes with not achieving something, we are also blessed with a deep sense of empathy towards others in distress.

Failing is by no means fun. It always remains as one of those viscerally painful emotions. But at the same time, it is also one of those enriching experiences that teach us some moral aspects of life like patience, modesty, pragmatism and compassion. 

Sometimes assuming the worst can be a shield to being unsuccessful. It actually does work in normal circumstances because whatever the outcome, with every eventuality it cannot be more than the worst that we are already in anticipation. But if we get anything better than this worst, it will always bring a sense of relief and peace to the soul.

With each of the failures that we might have had in life, we become stronger and stronger to face every grave situation and handle it prudently and in the right spirit.

 And now what makes the difference between an ordinary man and an extraordinary man. It is the amount of persistence that one shows towards the ambitions and a will to make them come true. Success doesn’t come to those who try to evade failures. It comes to those who don’t give up even if they fail in the attempt.

Actually failures are meant to make us the men of valor and to inculcate values so that we would be held high and not just successful individuals. Success is unfortunately attained but just once, but failures are actually countless that keep on adding to our experiences in life.

Face a hurdle here and expect being unsuccessful. If you succeed, you gain nothing but  a win; and if you lose, you gain everything but a win.

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hamza ..